How is motivation created
Each of us sometimes feels a lack of motivation when getting a task seems like the hardest thing in the world. Children and young people are no exception.
They may also have a reduced desire to learn. How a person’s motivation is created and what are the reasons it can disappear.
The Science of Motivation
Motivation – a natural desire to get to know the world
Motivation is a natural, instinctive desire and need to get to know the world, which is formed in the first year of life.
If from the very beginning the child has a feeling that life is interesting, then there will be no problems with motivation, and the desire to learn will not depend on the environment.
Namely, even if there is a perception at school or among peers that learning is not stylish, the child will continue to learn because he will find it interesting.
Each Has its Own Reasons For Loss of Motivation
If the motivation has been and at some point disappears, remember that before you raise a child, you need to understand what has changed.
The most common reasons for loss of motivation are change of residence, parental divorce, school environment.
It is the environment that is one of the most important factors influencing the desire to learn at all ages.
All children need a respectful attitude and an individually adapted environment, while different children need different pedagogical methods for learning the substance.
For example, not everyone will have a class of 30 children or an environment in which only high scores are expected from each student.
Problems among peers and lack of friends in the team can also be a significant reason for lack of motivation and desire not to go to school.
There are children who can adapt independently in seven years, and there are children who go slower now and then.
If there are demands in the school environment that are inadequate for age, some children will have “thicker skin” – they will not care what others do.
Those children who will be more sensitive will perceive everything more emotionally. They can be stressed, which can further lead to neurotic disorders or lead to more frequent illnesses.
The biggest mistake – choosing a school based on your wishes
As the environment is very important for the child’s motivation, parents can never forget about the child’s interests and abilities when choosing a school.
Namely, it is necessary to choose an educational institution that corresponds to the child and not to the subjective wishes of the parent himself.
Every child has their own strengths and weaknesses that must be considered.
Not every student will study in a gymnasium, and not every teenager is ready to study in the same class with 29 other students.
A high school with a more cozy atmosphere is probably more suitable for someone. In case of excessive load, children can burn out like adults.
Depression, lack of strength, frequent illness, behavioral problems, and substance abuse can follow burnout syndrome.
Self-motivation requires the support of others
Feedback motivates children. In small classes, by the teacher, they can be stickers, praises for a job well done, or stars that motivate students.
It is important to support diligence. However, a sense of reality must be maintained – we must not constantly praise elementary things.
Motivation must be intrinsic, based on the joy of exploring the world. We have to look at what the child reacts to – someone will react to praise, someone to the joy of parents, but the prime motivator is joy and emotions.
What parents definitely don’t need to do is pay the child to study. In such cases, the child gains opportunities for manipulation, and the desire to learn is maintained artificially with the help of money.
But it shouldn’t be. The child must understand that it is necessary to learn in order to achieve one’s goals in life.
It is also important that parents have curiosity and do not despise the value of education, as children can adopt this attitude from their parents.
The only and effective way to truly motivate a teenager is to have the revelation that he or she wants to achieve something in life.
We should give the teenager the opportunity to decide for himself what he wants.
And here, too, we need to keep in touch with reality:
If you don’t want to learn, so be it. I respect your choice. But then go to work and feed yourself.
It is also worth remembering that the teacher’s respect for the children he works with is extremely important.
In addition, we must show this respect both when the child is seven years old and when he or she is already ten or seventeen.
If the teacher respects the child, then the quality of the relationship is completely different.
As a teenager, everything depends on your will
Adolescence is a time full of surprises. It is often too late to look for motivation at this age, or it is much more difficult to recover than in pre-school or primary school.
This may be because the methods used by adults are ineffective, as they reinforce the view in adolescents that parents only moralize and read “lectures”.
In addition, we should remember that if a teenager gives in too easily to the views of his parents, it means that he has not set his own goals at all.
Much also depends on the teacher, who must be able to balance support with reality.
Namely, the student cannot be “pulled out” or “covered” all the time, because he will get used to it and will lose both the motivation to try to the sense of reality.
The illusion will be strengthened: “Everything will take care of itself”. As a result, there is no understanding of the causes and effects: if nothing is done, then nothing is received.
Teachers should not “pull” those who do not try, but help those who do.
You should offer time for counseling or sometimes just talk to the student about life. If the teacher is open and understanding, not negative and critical, then the student’s desire to learn will be much greater.
And a teacher can become an authority, a trusted adult, and a resource for the young person, even if the family’s adults inadvertently create a feeling of frustration or resistance in the young person.