Life without regret. Is that possible at all? Probably not.
Repentance, like a vast cloud of thunder, reminds us of the wrong decisions of life from time to time with a lightning dart.
How to calm this storm cloud so that the ray of hope shines through the clouds again?
A strong emotional barrier
Regret is an emotional state when a person, overwhelmed with guilt, constantly recalls moments when he has made the wrong life decisions.
Realizing that the decision has been unsuccessful, we preoccupy the mind with imaginative visions of the best version of life, which could be a reality if the decisions were thought through more carefully and far-sighted beforehand.
And it is this constant thinking about how it would be, if it were, that puts people in a dead-end situation, forcing themselves to be compared to other people they think are more successful.
Regret is a lasting emotion that can afflict people for days, months, and even decades.
We relate these emotions to the past, and the moment we realize we are out of control of everything that happens in our lives, we fall into constant pain and reproach that has long-term negative consequences for our mental health.
For a short time, regret overwhelms us when we do stupid things, fail, or make mistakes.
Throughout our lives, we remember memories of moments that could have changed our lives completely untapped job opportunities, the wrong choice of education, untapped opportunities to engage in romantic relationships or not spending time with family.
But there are often stories of how fast our children grow up, and as they grow up, they often realize that there have been very few people actually present in their lives because of their careers.
Regret as motivation
Although we experience emotional pain during regret, beating ourselves up with a host of other negative emotions, such as guilt, frustration, and self-blame, regret can serve as a powerful motivation not to experience such a situation again.
The key is not to get into deep grief about nothingness, and to analyze life’s events to understand why such a decision was made.
We must see regret as an opportunity to do everything possible to turn wrong decisions into right ones.
In addition, by analyzing situations that you currently wholeheartedly regret, it also allows you to get to know yourself – to see your values, growth and the surrounding people.
For children, regret is a very useful emotional state to prepare themselves for growth and for the fact that future opportunities are determined by our own decisions.
It is easier for younger people to fight with regret, because it makes you realize that time is moving forward and all you have to do is get to work to get the desired result.
However, overcoming regret is most difficult for the elderly – it can cause lasting feelings of sadness, shame and anger towards oneself, which over time can also cause depression.
Understanding that half a life spent alone, without a loved one on the side, can be a painful return to reality. Building a romantic relationship at the end of life is much harder than getting an education.
Moments of regret are a healthy reminder that we must make wisely all life choices, urging us to strive for a better version of life.
How not to let regret ruin yourself?
- Don’t let self-punishment and pain take over your mind, but look for ways to turn the situation around.
- Remember that everyone makes mistakes. Regret is a step towards growth and positive change within oneself.
- Allows regret to serve as self-knowledge. Analyzing your mistakes allows you to look at yourself from the sidelines and create the best version of yourself in the future.
- Learn from your mistakes and consider new life options longer and more thoughtfully. Don’t make spontaneous decisions.
- Justify yourself. Analyze why such a decision was made, and you probably realize that there were no other options at all for the resources available.
- Perceives mistakes as learning. It is not possible to change the past, but we can do everything we can to prevent the same mistakes in the future.